Wednesday, January 25, 2012

The Best Toy can Easily be Dismissed…. If you aren’t careful that is….

Masturbation is an interesting topic for me.  I grew up in a household that not unlike a lot of people, it was shall we say, frowned upon.  Heaven forbid you actually make a reference to touching yourself.  Heck if I wanted to get my sister’s in trouble, I could just mention that they were doing something strange in their bed and walla… vengeance for whatever slight be it was real or imagined.  Ok well that wasn’t something I did but it would surely work if I wanted to really get someone into trouble :O)

I remember when my mom was changing my daughters diaper when she was a baby becoming very angry at her and nearly biting her head off for moving my baby’s hand away from her vagina.  She hated the word Vagina and I used it as often as humanly possible to annoy her.  As you can probably guess from reading my blog postings, I have absolutely no problem with masturbation in any form or fashion. 

Personally I don’t have a lot of toys that I use.  I only really use one on a regular basis that has never once failed me.  It is funny, I went to a Pure Romance Party at my sister’s house and I won this wonderful purple friend in a game and thought nothing really of it.  Looked like a cheap piece of garbage to me.  To be honest, I was trying to trade my sister for the penis pasta that she won, thinking it was way cooler than what I got! I even went and bought a more expensive toy at the party thinking that it would be a real wonderful purchase but I will leave that one for another time.  This is the story of “Purple”


You will notice that it has a nice shape to it and it is meant to hit the “G spot” (If you have read the comments, this is not what this toy is for according to a wonderful commenter that is full of information!) which I had never actually thought existed until this new friend entered my life.  Oh I was an expert at adult toys, got my first one when I was 16 years old in fact.  My new best friend :O) I have several toys and have used toys in lovemaking as well as whenever the inspiration hits me.  I really enjoy writing about using them, and fantasizing about it butI  as of yet, not really met anyone that really likes to play and explore the joys of adult toys with me but I am getting off topic again. 

I took “Purple” home and put batteries in him, not expecting anything all that thrilling to be honest.  I was surprised at first by the power he possessed.  I wasn’t really all that sure what the little seeming like a handle? under the base was for.  It seemed odd to me but I went with it.  

The biggest surprise was that I was able to achieve maximum satisfaction, or so I thought at the time, rather quickly.  Pretty amazing and I thought that was really cool, was tired anyway and it worked well.  Then with further experimentation, he became my favorite and the one that I use most often. 

One night I was experimenting and hit what I can only guess was the elusive G-spot that I had heard so many wonderful things about and I was pretty sure I was going to die of pure pleasure.  I had multiple orgasms before but nothing like this.  It went all over my whole entire body, fast and furiously and lasted for no kidding 7 whole minuets.  I didn’t think it was possible, looked at the clock several times thinking I had imagined it.  I was exhausted and slept better than I had in months. 

Now it doesn’t take an expert to know why “Purple” is my favorite.  Others have brought pleasure but none has been able to come close to the reliability of him.  The best part? I have been able to take that 7 min up to 10 min. of the most powerful mind blowing experiences ever.  So in closing… just because a toy may look not so impressive, doesn’t mean at all that it isn’t a masterpiece!  That goes for people too, you can be amazed in amazing ways if you just open your mind and explore for yourself with a friend or alone with a toy.

I hope that you enjoyed my first installment of toy play…. Look for more to come….


43 comments:

  1. Mmmm... I liked this a lot. Reminds me of my "Pink Lady" as I call it. :)

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    1. Mine is purple but when you said this, I looked at the picture and it does look more pink on it. It is an amazing toy... far superior to most that I have ever used. I have other G-spot vibrators and they do absolutely nothing for me. I am glad to see I am not the only one out there with a friend like "Purple" :O)

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  2. A lot of men are intimidated by the idea of a woman using toys. I know of many women who hide their toys from their husbands, boy-friends and significant others. Male ego often overrules good sense and these men have no freaking idea what they're missing out on.

    Huffing, puffing - sticking out your chest and proclaiming that my woman don't need no toys - she's got me is just not conducive to a loving relationship. For me, watching the expression on her face as she uses her toy is must-see TV.

    Fellas, here's some free advice. Give your lady a helping hand, tongue, mouth, sexy words of encouragement and/or anything else you can offer to maximize the experience for her. I can promise you that you will not be disappointed and you will earn huge bonus points for being her "helper."

    Now, does anyone want to know what is my favorite toy?

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    1. Oh now Benjamin... you can't leave it at that! Curiosity killed the cat and all that :O) I love your advice for men that are intimidated by toys or put off by them. My sister's x-husband found her toy that she had even forgot that she had bought and was upset she had it. She ended up throwing it away... as you can guess... I was appalled! Heck she could have given it to me knowing full well I enjoy them! Seriously? I thought that was strange in a way but knowing men, i wasn't too surprised.

      Thanks for your comments... now you going to tell us all or are you going to keep your secret and build the curiosity?

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  3. I've worked at Adam & Eve for over 25 years. The woman I sat next to for the first couple of those years was the woman who came up with the world's very first G-spot vibrator. (Your purple is not a G-spot vibe, sorry. G-spot vibes have a definite crook to the tip that looks like a bent finger.) She got the idea from either a Cosmo or Playgirl article about the G-spot. It took 5 years for the men in our company to okay getting the prototype made. As soon as it hit our catalog, it became our #1 product and stayed that way for years.

    One of my first assignments was to design a booklet that taught our customers how to incorporate various types of vibes and toys into couples and singles sex play to enhance the experience. We still send out an updated version of that.

    Last week I had to do some copyright infringement stuff that had me checking out how one site had completely ripped off our site as to toys. It took me an entire afternoon just to catalog the anal toys! I never knew there were so many, and as the days passed, I came to know a whole BUNCH of sex toy variants quite thoroughly, from anal toys to butt plugs to cock rings to dildos and dongs, pumps (for both men and women), love dolls, and let's not even talk about the bondage stuff.

    There's LOTS out there for people to experiment with, find out what works for them, and discover that you don't have to be alone to enjoy your toys!

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    1. Carol... I am so impressed with your comment! First and foremost it makes me re-consider working with Pure Romance as being a possibility :O) Your job sounds fun... going to have to check out Adam and Eve. I have looked at a LOT of sites and stores but it is always more of a challenge when you are super happy with what you have at the moment. It is entirely possible I have seen it, as a matter of fact, pretty sure I have but now I will look at it with more of a educational purpose instead of shopping right now. Besides.. who knows what will strike my fancy :O)

      The biggest surprise is however that my toy is not a G-spot vibrator... maybe that explains why it works so well for me? I have always been a little odd :O) Funny too that the person who told me that it was actually one, obviously had no clue and now I am thrilled that I did this post because my main reason is to educate people and to be educated myself is a major bonus :) Obviously I need some education in this subject... getting ready to post my next installment as a matter of fact.

      Thank you so much for commenting! I am sure I can learn a lot from you as can others to help break the ridiculous notion that masturbation is not OK or you might go blind, or grow hair on your palms or any number of other sayings out there!

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  4. Oh, I would have to follow this comment wouldn't I lol. Not fair! I need to know. I think this post is excellent! It does away with the old thoughts that masturbation is 'nasty' and should be outlawed. Yes, I grew up in one of those households. But why be against something pleasurable? :Lovers should jointly enjoy experiences with toys And hell, dildo's go back thousands of years. But thank goodness they are more sophisticated now. So come on Ben, give!

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    1. Naomi you are hilarious! Carol's post is amazing but I totally love your pointing out how great it is to enjoy toys jointly. That can be so much fun! I know that I enjoy watching my partner enjoying toys... doesn't mean that I want to see them with another person as some think but it does mean that I completely enjoy the look on their face knowing they are gaining great pleasure. I am not threatened that they are enjoying it more then being with me either because there are just some things that I am not physically capable of that causes a great deal of pleasure for someone. I gain great pleasure experiencing the experience with them. Joining in and helping them to their ultimate goal is always a turn on for me :O)

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  5. Carol, I love Adam and Eve, but they do send out way too many fliers. Have to go and change my mailing options again.

    I think every couple should be given a chest of toys when they get married. Toys for men and women help to round out the love making experience. Having sex the "traditional" way is boring. Couples need to have purple friends incorporated into their love making to keep it fresh. One thing I haven't tried out is anal beads, but they might just end up on my wish list...

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    1. Sara, your suggestion of giving every couple a chest of toys is FANTASTIC! Seriously that is the best idea. Talk about an enjoyable first night of married bliss together... the best way to get to know someone intimately even if you know them beforehand as so many do now.

      I love making love the "traditional" way but it is so easily enhanced with added toys or games or whatever. Definitely has it's place however to keep the "traditional" way there as well. Definitely doesn't have to be boring with the right person :)

      Thanks so much for your comment!

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  6. I didn't get my first toy until a few years ago when my fiance & I split (then again I was a virgin until after I was 20)--sex just wasn't that important to me... well a year ago I started casually seeing this guy (a decade older--I'm usually a cradle robber) who is physically the polar opposite of my type, personality wise too--but I was bored and lonely... and he is FAR AND AWAY the best (skilled) lover I've ever had. We've been kicked out of a hotel before! So yes--don't judge books, toys of men by their appearance!!!

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    1. Well said Eco in not judging anything by their appearance! How totally awesome to be kicked out a hotel, now that is something to brag about :O)

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  7. Everybody needs a good toy! boyfriend or not...I got my 1st one at the age of 17 my taste grown up since then.:) But i love it when me and my (friend)use my toys when we are in the bed.It makes it so much better!

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    1. I totally agree... EVERYONE needs a good toy, men and women. It can be so very satisfying enhancing the experience and it makes even the shy come out of their shell so it seems :O)

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  8. Didn't get my first toy until I think 7 years ago. In those 7 years Ive bought 4 or 5. This is a great blog.

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    1. Thanks Jodi... I am glad to see you have found the wonders of toys :O)

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  9. Well my friend hipped me to this blog and I was happy to read it and join. As far as toys go, my husband and I have a toybox as I would suggest any couple who appreciate the value of switching it up would. We have a few vibrating toys and not unlike the original post it is sometimes the ones you raise your eyebrows at and go "No way is this going to do anything" that end up being amazing in the bedroom (or wherever you find yourself) My husband is obsessed with "couples bags" at Cirilla's and started getting them a couple of years ago and despite some of the funny things they contain, one time we lucked out and found a fun little device called a vibrating cock ring. Now I will tell you I had no idea they existed but holy hell do they work! At least for me anyway and I find it best to be on top when he wears it so that I can control exactly where the small vibrator sits against me. Now, I do enjoy vibrators but I find it more intense of an orgasm if he is inside of me and having that little ring to add to the pleasure was incredible to me. Anyway...it is awesome to see people who are comfortable with their sexuality and able to verbally share their stories. I did not grow up in a household that was stiffled in its sexuality or talk of it in anyway and I concider myself lucky. My parents approached it in a tastful manner and without any guilt laid upon us. I am also bi-sexual and told my parents in my early teens, they also accepted this without any weirdness...anyway, once again thank you and I will be sure to check back and keep up on the posts on here from now on:)

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    1. Awesome Rue! I love your input and the vibrating cock ring sounded fantastic to me too until I tried it. Didn't work for me however it quite honestly could have been my ex husband wearing it that didn't do the trick. He was not very creative in lovemaking :O) Have to revisit that one though and experiment again with it... you make it sound enjoyable :O)

      I agree that it is awesome to be able to hear others stories and suggestions... I am learning a lot and very glad that I did this posting.

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  10. Great blog topic! I am all for masturbation...one of my favorite things to do is have my partner and I watch each other...helps figuring out what works. Toys are amazing. I've never hid them...except from my mother, and not because she would have been upset, but because it was none of her business. lol I think sex, including all the different toys out there, is a natural thing and all people should explore as much as possible. I recently had a toy party at my house and bought my 16 yr old daughter her first "purple friend". We're open and honest and it wasn't at all weird to talk to her about it. Figured since they were already in the house, I might as well save her from having to find some other way to get one. Oh, Mr. Benjamin, please tell us what you're favorite toy is? Pretty please?

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    1. Agreed Nice... watching each other is a real turn on for me as well. I think it is awesome that if your daughter was interested you got her a toy, it is a nice thing I think for a parent to do. Helps keep the communication open and not being weird as you said :O)

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  11. My husband and I use toys in our love making and I just can't imagine the experience without them. I do masturbate quite often too and I use something similar to Purple. I know what you mean about hitting the G-spot it can take you to another place and when you come back you're not only satisfied, but tired as hell. Thanks for this post. I'm glad someone has the gumption to talk about it.

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    1. LOL Bonni! That being as "Tired as Hell" you mentioned is fantastic because talk about a satisfying night of sleeping too... No better cure for a sleepless night as the other place you get transported too not only masturbating but love play... yep a definite advocate of a little tension releasing fun before a good nights sleep :O)

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  12. Absolutely brilliant! There is no shame in using toys at all! I had a boyfriend that broke my favorite one time. Needless to say he didn't last very long. The boyfriend...not the toy. This blog is a breath of fresh air! Truly magnificent and I applaud you. Keep it cummin! ;)

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    1. Totally not something I would be happy to have happen to "purple" for sure! I hope you were able to get a new friend that was as good as your "Friend" because it is amazing when you find your "Go to Friend".

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  13. Toys can definitely enhance a sexual experience between partners if they're both willing and open to it. I think toy play alone is good for a person to get to know their body. Then you know what works and what doesn't which will help you and future partners in the long run.

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    1. Great point Kellie! If you don't know your own body, how will you be able to have the most satisfying experience with anyone else?

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  14. Thanks everyone for your comments! I so plan to respond to everyone's comments but have to get busy right now starting the day with work. I will be back... you guys are awesome!!!

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  15. I luv this blog. The first time I bought a toy was many years ago, but my partner..let's say had no clue how to best use it in our time of play, so the toy ended up missing in action you could say. And I continued on my merry way with out those wonderful experiences it had to offer until about a year ago. Things had changed in my life and I had not been satisfied in a while so I found an adult store with the help of my daughter in law and went shopping. One of my special friends is purple as well. It is the one I use the most and quiet frankly adore. I like to go shopping periodically and find something new and when I bring it home, I spend as much time as I can getting to know everything I can about it. Any future partners I have are going to have to be toy friendly. There is a world of pleasure just waiting for you whether you are alone or for a couple. And I think the toy box as a wedding gift or new couples gift, even recently divorced gift is a great idea, the only suggestion I have is you might want to add an instructional booklet that tells what the toy is and some suggestions how to use it whether alone or as a couple. One of these companies out there should snatch that idea right up if they haven't already. Thank you so much for being willing to go where most fear to tread but are dieing to go. Now Mr. Benjamin what is your favorite toy, please do tell....:D

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    1. I know that when I first started using toys, my partner had no clue what to do, I took over for him and was able to be satisfied. Sadly he was not the best lover, might have been very well endowed but he had not a single clue how to use it. If it wasn't for my toys, I would have never been satisfied ever so I am a definite advocate of toys as you all can probably guess :O) Love the idea of the toy box as I think I have mentioned but instructional booklet? Basic instructions maybe but that is the fun I think... getting to now how they work, how they best are enjoyable to each other... that kind of thing. Of course for some, the total and complete booklet on what to do with them would be very needed :O) Definitely some tips would be good... or hey! I have an idea... just add a copy of some explicit adult erotica that includes toy play in it, package it up and sell it along with the toys and walla! Mind blowing experiences :O)

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  16. My very first B.O.B was something I called purple passion. He was always there for me when I was still living under the same roof as my ex. He was a useless tool so I resorted to my toy for pleasure.

    My new husband is a wicked lover and he introduced me to a wide variety of toys, so now we share in the sexual experience together!! Over the years we have collected a toy chest full of fun toys and bondage stuff I keep locked in my closet.

    It's not uncommon for some couples to have sex in the missionary position and that's it. NO toys nothing!!! Ugh!! I'd shoot myself lol.

    One item we haven't purchase but would love too is the wireless remote controlled vibrating egg. We want to go to the mall and try it out. Lol

    Sex should be fun, not a chore! Masturbation shouldn't be taboo, it should be enjoyed openly with a partner. :D

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    1. As you can probably tell from my last comment Trisha, I totally understand the need for a friend, especially when my ex was still with me toward the end of our relationship... or heck... all the way through the very long years. I love the whole "wicked lover" quote, sounds fun :O) Same old position, same old routine is one of the reasons I think that people get bored... duh I know :O)

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  17. My first toy was several years ago... The husband was intimidated and didn't want the toy bigger than his... I laughed.... I bought a year ago something called the rabbit. And It was the most satisfying experience.... I screamed... It was fantastic... lol But men should not feel intimidated because his spouse or girlfriend has toys.. The fun part is experimenting with your partner and loving each but have fun while doing it... I believe you have to spice up the relationship. And I love this blog site...

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    1. Helena.. your mention of your husband not wanting a toy bigger then him got my funny bone :O) Men can be so silly sometimes :O)

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  18. Diversity is the key...in my opinion. Sometimes with a toy, sometimes without, sometimes just the toy *winks*...I believe it's important to know what you like - otherwise how will anyone else - and using toys in all forms helps you to know your own body.

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    1. Totally agree completely with you Havan!

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  19. LOL! Loved this post! I discovered what you recently found out long time ago. I worked in a novelty megastore right after I graduated from high school, and let me tell you my eyes were opened very quickly. I would never replace a man with a toy, but some of these little gadgets that have you squirting all over the place, comes damn close to being perfect. The mere thought gives vertigo.
    Thanks for sharing your experience. :)

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    1. I think you pointed out a good point Yvonne, at least to me... I too would never replace a man with my toys, although sometimes my toy is the only thing available but there is nothing better then the physical touch of another person. Some of these toys today are beyond remarkable... but I would like to point out not only for women but for men as well. There are some awesome toys out there for men as well :O)

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  20. I think everyone has a favourite toy... I enjoyed reading about yours, a refreshingly honest post.

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  21. When it comes to sex toys, I remember my first pocket pussy. Enjoyed reading your blog.

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    1. I just recently looked into those, well not for myself but just to see what is out there. Amazing that they seem to be so popular but of course, I have no idea how good they are :O)

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  22. Interesting post really help full for using adult toys thanks. for sharing your experience. bisexual

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    1. Thank you for the comment Peter. I have some new toys coming soon that might be of interest to you :O)

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  23. I just wanted to Thank You. I am have always been shy when it comes to toys and after reading your blog, I just had to try a toy. My husband got me a Beaded Bunny from Madam Dooley's Nighttime Secrets for only $42.19 and I LOVE IT! It has brought out a whole new Sexual Devil from within. If you're looking for a new toy for a new sexual experience, I highly recommend going to www.MadamDooleysNighttimeSecrets.com

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    Thank You, Bella Marie, for helping fix my marriage.

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